Life, Truth, Mental Health – LET'S TALK!

Here’s something that I came across on and they kindly let me use the questions which I’m very appreciative for;

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So I’m about to answer these questions now. Sorry if i repeat sentences but I actually haven’t read all the questions as I wanted it to be straight off the bat to whatever came into my head at the time.

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Do I believe everything is meant to be, or do I think that things are just tend to happen for no reason at all?

I do think things happen for a reason and that helps you with other obstacles that you may come across in your life. I believe that your path is already laid out for you but you just have to figure that out. This last year has made me think a lot because all this pain and anger must help me later on in life or it will make me stronger when other things get in my way in the future. 

Do I forgive and forget? Or do I forgive, but always remember?

I definitely forgive but I never forget. Once somebody has lied, or done something which has hurt me I don’t forget that. I don’t hold grudges but I can never fully trust somebody who was/is my friend for them to act in a way to hurt others. 

If I could give one piece of advice to everyone in the world, what would it be?

To know that you are never going to make everybody happy or please everyone. I always tried to do this especially when I was younger. Most times at birthday parties or just at school I’d like to make sure that everybody was happy or was being nice and unfortunately the world isn’t a perfect place and therefore you need to remember that you no matter what you do for somebody, another person is always watching, judging, etc. So I now have to attitude of trying not to let that bother me and that I’m no magician 😉

Do I think that people can change, or that they just are who they are?

I do think people change, especially as they are growing up (OBVS) As my previous question I’ve definitely become more thick-skinned, as situations in life help you with that but you need to make the change to better your life, not rely on other people to change to adapt to you. 😙

Would I consider myself to be religious or spiritual?

I wouldn’t say I’m completely religious as I haven’t grew up in a religious family so at the moment a lot of that is completely new to me. I pray when things are tough and now thinking about it I do that often. I do believe in both sides, only since my previous holiday really as I went to a church in Montana, USA and it was nothing I expected. I would say my luck hasn’t been that great over the last year and a half and I’ve been thinking what have I done to deserve this but then I looked at it from another perspective (like my first question) and thought out the positive on how it will shape me into becoming a stronger person (which is DAMN HARD!)😤 

Would my 10-year-old self be proud of me?

This is a tough one. I can’t really remember being 10. But I think I would but I could also do a lot more and achieve more. I’d of wanted to be better at school, listen more, and take more notice but I wasn’t an exam person so that would maybe of still being the same outcome. I do think I’d be proud because deep down somewhere I know that I am a good person, I’m just too hard on myself sometimes. 

What do I think is the best revenge?

The best revenge is not reacting. Which I know is so so hard to do because you build up all this anger and frustration and it could actually do more damage. Yes opinions are good also and both parties should listen but that’s not always the way. Just forgive but never forget 💁💁‍♂️

What would I change about myself?

Worrying/over thinking about EVERYTHING!!?!?!??!?. I drive myself insane with worrying even though sometimes it is about stupid things but at the time it seems like a BIG deal. Obviously not 🙄

On the flip side, what would I never change about myself?

My heart. I do think I have a big heart and I do try to see the best in people, whether they lash out or not. I always want to find the reason because there always is. Or why somebody snaps at you etc. I love to help too, even though sometimes I don’t show it sometimes. 

Can I confidently say that the path I am on in life right now is the one that I (and no one else) would want for myself?

I cannot confidently say that I’m on the right path. I don’t think a lot of people at 24 think they are on the right path. I don’t want this path either, I want to make something of myself and not lean on anybody but do it for myself and my family. I want to work hard in something I love to do, but the hard part is finding that what I love doing 😂

It’s the year 2040. Where am I?

Hopefully, a couple of kids, living in America somewhere 🇺🇸, having lots of animals and married with Azza 💗

Am I a morning person or a night owl?

Night 🦉 FOR SURE! I can get up if I have to be up but I don’t actually get into the world till at least 11am 🙊. I could stay up all night though, can’t sleep, and everyone on the tele gets more interesting. 📺

Would I consider myself to be more creative or more logical?

I think I’m actually a bit of both. But I do also have a few blonde moments, but my excuse is my brain is working so hard and thinking of so many possibilities that it’s just too busy sometimes 😂

What could I do to be a healthier person?

• Eating regularly
• Drinking MORE water
• Fruits
• Sleeping earlier 

If time and money were no object, what would I do with my life?

GO TO USA AND LIVE THERE!! And take my family with me 🙃

Is it all about luck or hard work?

It’s got to be a bit of both. I think if you put enough work in different things will start paying off so whether you want to see that as luck or something different. 

Should I live with no regrets, or learn from my mistakes?

Another bit of both. I do take risks sometimes in life, just by going on a previous holiday, couldn’t afford it but I do know next trip I will be more prepared but I’m glad I did that because it was life changing. 

How would I describe myself in only five words?

Thoughtful, Stressy, Honest, Sarcastic, Loving.

Family first, true or false?

TRUE! 

Can discipline be learned?

I think it should be put into children at their youngest age of when they are knowing of things. Nowadays kids get away with everything and this is just an effect on how they are going to be when they are older especially in school as if they don’t listen to their parents they aren’t going to listen to teachers and they don’t earn enough to take the disrespect from the kids. It can be learned but only if the elder is persistent enough! 

Am I as loyal as I think I am?

Yes. I’m loyal especially to the people who I care about. I think of every angle when I do something which yeah is probably a bad thing because I over think and wonder if I do this will it upset them etc. But I’m loyal and If I say I’m going to be there I will be there 100%!

How could people be a better friend to me?

Just by being honest. I HATE people lying to me, to be honest I don’t think a lot of people are keen on that but some friends of mine lie to me whether that’s to hide something or to stop me from being hurt I don’t know but if you want to be a good liar you need to have a good memory, and some of you don’t so you always get caught out. 

How could I be a better friend to people?

Yeah, there’s always room for improvement. 

Is conformity a good thing or a bad thing?

It’s good and both. But don’t change from being someone who you’re not because that isn’t cool either. Just need to find the right balance and be true to yourself. But if you believe in something then always go with that too! 

What is a book I read that completely changed my outlook on life?

Demi Lovato – Staying Strong. This isn’t an ordinary book, it has every date of the year in and there is a quote from one of Demi’s favourite and it also comes with a goal everyday which is good because you don’t have to think of goals yourself (obviously you can if you want) But its cool because a lot of them I can relate to. 

How can I be generous when I am not rich?

Just to be there for somebody. You don’t need money to be generous. I’d rather have somebody there with me rather than money or gifts because they’ve taken the time to spend time with me which is more important. 

How can I improve dialogue and communication with those I deeply disagree with?

To probably not be so defensive, I’m quite a defensive person and sensitive too and I sometimes don’t speak up because then it might go the wrong way or I get too worked up and take it too far. So I need to think before hand and just be calm about something rather than go in like a bull in a china shop. 

If I had to make a list of my top 10 most important values, what would they be?

• Honesty
• Faithfulness 
• Compassionate
• Kindness
• Patience
• Peace
• Joy
• Love
• Happiness
• Hope

What are my deal breakers for romantic relationships?

Cheating, Dishonesty, Disrespect. 

Do I love myself?

Sometimes. 

If not, how could I find a way to love myself?

Being more active, being more motivated. 

Is trust always earned, or is it a given until it’s broken?

I think it’s always earned. With somebody you just met you aren’t going to trust them straight away. You test different things with people and see their true colours. 

If I could apologize to one person, who would it be?

My dog. For giving up too easily. 😭

And what would I say to that person?

We think about you every single day. And your always going to be in our hearts. 

If I was able to say one thing to my ex, what would I say?

Don’t have one. 

If I could have one person apologize to me, who would it be?

The people who caused me upset when I was younger. 

And what would I want them to say?

Just to realise that they were being idiots. ☺️

Do I ghost people or do I give them a reason for breaking ties?

I definitely do not ignore people, or give up. Theres always a reason, might be just growing up and different things come across in life which side tracks people and priorities change. 

Do I believe in karma?

Yeah. 100% I believe in karma. “What goes around, comes around”

How do I show I am angry?

I am quite open with if I’m angry, frustrated and annoyed. Just because I used to let things build up and that’s worse especially with anger. And now I have to get things off my chest before they become too overwhelming. 

In my opinion, what are my greatest strengths?

If I say I’m going to do something I will do it. Sometimes this is hard when you have anxiety because you don’t want to do it but also my inner strength pushes me because I HATE letting people/friends down especially when they have my word. Or even just being there to talk to, and through my hard times some ‘friends’ have disappeared. 

In my opinion, what are my greatest weaknesses?

Never thought you could have a great weakness. I don’t have much patience and I’m also quite sensitive over silly little things. 

If I could go anywhere in the world, where would I go?

USA 😊

Is work-life balance important to me?

Yes of course. You need a good balance between the two because if you work too much then your social group starts to move on without you. Yes work comes first with a lot of people but everybody gets that so hopefully with doing work then play it’ll be a good balance in life. 

Is family important to me?

Family is important to me. My family is very close too which is a good start. We always have been, and were always there for one another. 

Is friendship important to me?

You need a good group of friends around you for the good times and the bad. The ones you can call when your upset or going through some things and they say that there coming round right now – to when you want to go out and celebrate your birthday or a new opportunity and you want a fun night out and get all dressed up. 

Is romantic love important to me?

One of the most important things. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 and half years now. And I’m not going to say its been a smooth ride. We certainly have had our ups and downs but that’s like everything. Nothing is PERFECT. And if you never argue or disagree then something is wrong. The key fact to it is to communicate between both of you so you both know what each other want, and what goals are there for us to work in a team to get there. 

If I could have one talent, what would it be?

I’d probably like to teleport. Instead of getting on planes and just be there instantly.

What is one part of my life I miss and why?

My dog is what I miss. My family and I are completely heartbroken and we miss her like mad. She was a part of our life for 12 years. I’ve gone on about her a lot but nobody would understand unless they’ve lost a dog. 

What are elements from that time I could incorporate into my present?

To get a remembrance/tattoo or something that she will always be with me no matter what. 

Do actions really speak louder than words?

Yes because a lot of people can talk and say that they are going to do a lot of things. And if you actually do them then your already half way there. 

Am I happy with my career?

I wouldn’t say I have a ‘career’ yet. It’s a work in progress. 

If not, what could I change about my job to be happier and more satisfied?

Find some inspiration, set some goals and eventually get there. 

What’s more important to me, self-respect or being right?

Self respect out of those two. Just because nobody is right all the time and also the most important thing is just to be yourself and don’t over do something to try to impress people. Stay true to who you are, or who you want to grow up to be. 

Do I learn from the past or live in the past?

I have learned from the past. This is what has made me become who I am today and I am thankful for that. 

When I die, what do I want to be remembered for?

I want to make a change in this world, and I want to become a better person. I want to help people, especially with mental health and even if it’s just on here for being a voice for some people to read and listen rather than get involved. And just to show that hard work will get you to wherever you want to be and I haven’t been to university or anything and yeah it’s gonna be tough but I have a great support system around me who will help me along the way. 

 

Thank you for listening .. 

Remember I’m open for people to ask/share or whatever you may be going through. I can always give good advice and want to help more people. And know that its nothing to be ashamed of! 

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Sammy  x